Presents for me?? Part 2

On top of that, the main reason I don't quite like the idea of RM 20 gift is that, you can't really put a price tag on a gift. But well, of course, when it comes to gift exchange, it's different from any other gift giving occasion because we have to be fair, right?

Believe me, it's not that I don't want to tell my housemates what I like or don't like, or what I think is right or wrong. The thing is, I won't do that before I finish debating with myself. As the writing of this post, I am still debating with myself. The main clash is between it's-not-always-about-me vs the-real-meaning-of-a-present.

Of the things I listed down in my previous post, you notice that it is something I need, and I still will be happy to receive them. But if you were looking for clues what I could like or want as a gift from you, let me tell you straight - I am looking forward for something that is priceless, made by yourself.

It is troublesome. It takes time and effort. You have to crack your mind to make it. But to me, that is exactly the main idea of a gift. That you have to stay up thinking about me. That you have to go obsessive and crazy over finding the envelope of the right size (that is my personal experience). That you have to sore your hands writing all the love messages to me, telling me how you think about me, what is the virtue you like in me, remind me of the memories we have together, telling me what kind of person I am, telling me who am I to you.

Because I like things that cannot be found and bought off from shelf conventionally. I like personalised things that are really for me only. I like to be awed by the effort you put in, not the cost of the present. I guess my love language is the combination of Receiving Gifts, Words of Affirmation and Act of Service. I guess I am not an easy-to-please person at times, huh?

But when it comes to giving gift to others, it is about them, not me. And despite my opinion on what should a present be like, I have to understand their love languages and find them presents that will make them happy and feel special. The conflict here is, I need to communicate in their love languages, not using mine. Every time I come up with an idea what to write as the message or how to present the gift, it hits me that, I need to find something that cost RM20 first. But I am still going to try. Because the more you love someone, the more you want to please them, the more sacrifices you want to make, because their happiness matters more than yours.

And that is the real meaning of a gift.